In the late 90’s, Dee was working with a couple who argued frequently. Suddenly, Dee said, “You know, nothing you two are talking about seems important. I think you just need to wrestle.”

Dee invited the couple to face one another and press their palms together. They pushed and laughed. They did some alternate-handed push moves and laughed more. They stopped and rested, looking at Dee as if to say, “We have stumbled on a useful truth.” They learned to catch themselves verbally wrestling at home, and to switch to this palm-to-palm wrestling and see what happened. It helped.

Couples therapists have known for a long time that romantic dances trigger unfinished child/parent interactions. From the time of the Wrestling Couple on, Dee would always invite couples into some sort of palm-to-palm experience. This was the birth of the Chi for Two practice Push.

Eventually, Dee started inviting individual clients to Push, saying, “When you push into what’s not you, you find you.” And, “Can you feel your arms…your core even? If you Push hard enough, you may feel your feet pushing into the floor.”